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Hormones and love

Do you know why you feel so euphoric when you’re in love? Why you feel happiness when you’re with your love? Do you know what happens in your body and how you can influence this all?

Well I’ll try to tell you something about this. I’ll tell you something about at least six hormones that are involved with love. You probably know them, at least the names. So let’s talk about adrenaline, dopamine, fenylethylamine, endorphin and oxytocin.

Dopamine

Did you know that when you’re in love, dopamine gives you the same feeling as when you would use cocaine? Every time you see your love, you get a shot of dopamine and it’s addictive. Everyone who has been in love knows they wanted to see the one they were in love with again and again and again.

But when you’re in a relationship for a longer period, let’s say about two years; your body doesn’t produce that much dopamine anymore. The feeling of being in love slowly changed in loving him or her.

When you eat healthy, you’ll probably get enough vitamin B6 and magnesium.Those two together make your body produce dopamine. So make sure you get enough. And besides food, nice things like sex can lead to an extra production of dopamine.

Fenylethylamine

Uhhh What? Yeah, try to pronounce this word without stumbling.

Fenylethylamine is produced in your brain. It has the same effect as XTC and speed. Your heartbeat is increasing, you start to breath faster, and the palms of your hands start to sweat, your cheeks and genitals get an extra blood flow and you start to feel happier.

When you eat a lot of cheese, eat lots of chocolate and drink plenty of red wine, maybe your brain gets some extra Fenylethylamine. (Besides the fact you’ll probably get nauseous.) Most of this gets decomposed in your intestines. When you have eye contact your brain also produces Fenylethylamine. The pupils of your eyes get bigger. But only when you see something you like. On the other hand, when you get the fright of your life, your brains starts producing this hormone too.

Adrenaline

Who hasn’t heard of it? The hormone that makes people run or fight. But when you’re in love adrenaline causes the reaction that you’re on standby all the way. Your pupils get bigger, your heart rate goes up, your breathing gets faster and you’re not so hungry because your digestive system starts to work slower.

If you want to let the adrenaline flow, get really angry, get into a situation where you get really scared, get overheated or go outside in your underwear when its ten degrees below zero outside or get some real physical exertion at the gym or maybe even at home with your loved one.

But be careful when you have a bad heart because in that case too much adrenaline can get you into trouble.

Endorphin

Endorphin is the morphine that your own body produces when you feel pain. When you’re in love it has the same effects as heroine and opium which cause you to feel more happy and joyful.

Eating fat, chocolate (Mmm again chocolate) and sugars make you produce more endorphin. An orgasm or running more than just around the block or far away from your in laws has the same effect.

When your body is producing less endorphin, there is a chance that you feel depressed or have mood swings.

Vasopressin

Vasopressin works for men in the same way as ocytocine does for women. It’s said that this hormone makes people monogamous.

If you want enough of this hormone, you'd better drink no alcohol. Alcohol is a restraining factor for the production of Vasopressin. When a man ejaculates there is a large amount of this hormone made by the hypothalamus and released in the blood stream. Vasopressin is also an antidiuretic hormone. So when you have enough of this hormone, you won’t wet your pants very easy. (If you have them on)

Oxytocin

Oxytocinis also called the mother hormone or cuddle hormone because when a mom breastfeeds her baby, this hormone is produced in large quantities. When you hug or caress this hormone is produced too. It makes you feel connected, takes away fear and makes you feel confident. That’s why a lot of people need foreplay before being able to make love all the way.

Where would we be without our own drug alike hormones?

Article by: 

Lazur

From Netherlands

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Is a person capable of loving a hundred and 1 percent? I think that's what I am capable of doing. Ever since I've come across the rush of adrenaline and oxytoxin (some of the hormones responsible for feeling love), I wasn't able to stop. I haven't felt loved by the people around me, people whom I expected to love me in the first place because they were my family. And so I took refuge in the arms of a lot of the wrong people whom I thought were the right ones for the time being.
Years have passed and still I was in struggle. It was as if I was in a race I couldn't win because though I felt like running to get to somewhere so fast, I wasn't moving.
Now I found the one that I have been waiting for my whole life, the one that I know God made especially for me, I think I am messing it up.


Fact: I am in love with him.


But why am I being a pain in his ass?


For the past year, I have been nothing but a maze to him. A puzzle he couldn't put together.

Vague.
Complicated.
Compromised.

I want all his attention. I want him to listen. I want him to say he loves me all the time. I want him to make me feel that he does all the time. I want him to care about how I feel. I want him to understand if I'm not in the mood. I want him to understand if I'm angry. I want him to say sorry. I want him to sugar coat every single word he says to me when I'm angry. I want him to be calm if I'm screaming. I want him to comfort me while I'm crying. I want him to appreciate my efforts. I want him to stop drinking excessively. I don't want him to talk to other women. I don't want him to touch other women. I want him to find a job. I want him to make me see that he wants a future with me. I want to feel that he is ready for a family with me. I want him to rescue me from all of my depression and anxiety. I want to be with him. I want to kiss him. I want to hug him. I want to laugh with him. I want to feel him.

I.

That's the problem.

I only want what's best for me. I am selfish. I am jealous. I am paranoid. I suck at listening. I don't want to listen. I don't want to be told. I only want things done my way. I don't care how he feels. I don't know what he needs. I don't know what he really wants to do. I don't know if he really still loves me despite all of the pain that I'm causing.

I don't want to lose him. I do these because of this. I know I will if I continue being like this. I need to find a way to love him unconditionally.

I am truly sorry.